Who Comes First, Your Husband or Your Children?

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I am not married yet but this is a question that often crosses my mind. I see a lot of women around me make that choice and I wondered what I would do in that situation.

Let me tell you how I see it.You meet, you fall in love, and it's marvellous. Suddenly, your world has been turned upside down, and finally feels the right way up. You feel more alive than you ever have, and happier than you ever knew you could be. Your heart beats bigger, better and stronger than ever before. You didn't believe this sort of thing was possible, so you pinch yourself, and you're met with the incredible realisation that this really is real. They write songs and poems and plays about this, and here you are, in the middle of your own epic love story.

But then you decide to have a baby. And it works and you're left wondering, what now?

I believe making your children's happiness your highest priority can result in an unanticipated and undesired consequence: the promotion of the idea that marriage requires the sacrifice of one's personal needs and desires in order to fulfil the imperative of responsible child rearing.

People today are quick to sacrifice  lives and marriage for children. But as we break our backs for our kids,we have to remember to have a balance. There is a natural order in marriage. It begins with two people falling in love, believing that they are the most important person in the world to each other. As children come along they need to be cherished and loved but never more than your spouse. Then when they're grown and gone, it's back to just two people again. When these two remain in love, it provides a stability and a legacy for the children, no matter their age.

Show that man love today.